I think we had a break-through last night. Up to this point Joel has been very positive and has had the "we're going to make it through this" kind of attitude. I've been resenting him because he's never home and he makes me feel like I'm the bad one for being so angry about it. I think all I wanted from him was for him to stop being so positive and fake with me long enough to tell me his real feelings: He doesn't like the situation either. He doesn't enjoy the 13-plus hour days. He doesn't enjoy being away from Evan and I so much and missing out on the things we do together.
I know it sounds odd but I just needed him to be angry with me for a minute so that I could see we were both feeling the same way and that we could make it through this rough time and that everything was going to be ok.
So what have Evan and I been up to while Joel is slaving away at work?
Evan likes to help me with the laundry. He really enjoys putting the clothes in the dryer and the other day he helped me take the sheets off the bed...
I have Evan's toys split between the living room and his bedroom so sometimes we play upstairs and sometimes we play downstairs. I snapped this picture just before we went up to play. You can see one of his front teeth!
Megan came over to play one morning this week and Evan wanted to show her his cupboard that he is allowed to play in...
They also wanted to go upstairs to play...
They settled for having a drink together...
And watching Jack through the window...
We also had Zach over one morning to play. Watching the cat on the porch seems to be fun for everyone...
When Joel is home he is really good about getting down on the floor and playing with Evan. Here are my two favorite boys with "hats" on their heads...
And during the day we always try to play outside! When Evan sees my keys he says "may" which means "mail." He knows we are going outside and that we will eventually get the mail. However, we can't make it to the mailbox without stopping to play with the rocks. Yesterday he did something new. He picked up a bunch of rocks and one by one put them in a pile up on the fence....
After we got the mail we went to the grassy area in the front of our neighborhood. We kicked the soccer ball around, picked up some more rocks, mulch, sticks, rotten wood, whatever looked interesting. But best of all its a great place to run off some energy!
Evan and I have a great time together and look forward to this crazy election season to be over so we can spend more time with Joel!
2 comments:
I can't imagine that kind of schedule. Good to see that you are keeping yourself busy with playdates, etc. But not having a break for yourself or having your other half around is rough. Hang in there . . . one more month!
Nate has seasons with crazy hours too, so I completely understand. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
PS: what exactly does Joel do?
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